Intro to Anal
My Anal Experience and Advice
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Hello! If you are reading this post, you are at least a little bit curious about anal. When we first learn about sex during our teenage years via sex ed, anal is seldom discussed. We spend our teenage and adult years thinking of the butthole as an “exit only”. When we learn that people actually put things inside their butthole for pleasure we are disgusted. I know I was. For the longest time I thought anal was just gross, like “why would anyone want to put their penis there, like poop comes out of there you know that right?”, but anal continues to be a man’s fantasy place (for most men). The anus is supposedly tighter than the vagina, making sex more pleasurable for men.
In my early 20’s I slowly became more interested in anal, the logistics of it. I figured if gay men can do it and find it pleasurable, then it can’t be so bad. Seeing porn stars take it up the a$$ and appear as if they LOVE IT, also encouraged me to change my mind. I read some romance novels, like kinky ones, more kinky than Fifty Shades, and I became more curious. I decided to take the matter to a professional…a gay guy! He basically said if you’re gona try it, prep yo booty with butt plugs, enema before sex, use tons of lube, and missionary is the best position for anal…who would have known!
So I followed up with is advice. I ordered butt plugs. I had no idea what to get, but I found a 3 Piece Butt Plug Starter Kit on Amazon that included butt plugs in 3 sizes, small, medium, large. For the review on this set click here. I used w/e lube I had. When the package arrived I was actually nervous. I mean I’ve experimented with anal fingering and attempted anal before (didn’t use lube so it just did not work, like my anus refused to allow an entry). Never have I had anything larger than a finger in my butt before. I was terrified but determined to have a third hole ready for use (lmao).So I lubed up the smallest plug, slowly forced it in my butt, allowing the sphincter to relax while I pushed in. Finally, it went all the way in…and plugged I was. WOAH! At first, I didn’t know whether I can get up and walk around, but considering I had other things to do, I just went about my day. I kept it in for about an hour the first time. When it was time to pull it out, I went slow, but it was much easier taking it out. My sphincter just pushed it out. I looked at it for a second, it looked clean, like no left over poo on it. Then I did what most of us would probably do… I smelled it…yup I sure did…and it smelled like a$$. I cleaned it with a sex toy cleaning spray and ran it under HOT water. It helped, but I still thought it was gross. I was determined though. I continued with the small plug for a while, probably a week, and then I switched to the medium one.
When it was time to pull it out, I went slow, but it was much easier taking it out. My sphincter just pushed it out. I looked at it for a second, it looked clean, like no left over poo on it. Then I did what most of us would probably do… I smelled it…yup I sure did…and it smelled like a$$. I cleaned it with a sex toy cleaning spray and ran it under HOT water. It helped, but I still thought it was gross. I was determined though. I continued with the small plug for a while, probably a week, and then I switched to the medium one.
The medium plug is a little bigger than the small one, wider. It took a little more effort putting in. Then I discovered the trick! If you watch porn and masturbate while you’re putting it in, you can barely feel it going in! Magic! From then on I used this strategy to make the insertion more “pleasurable”. I used the medium plug for another week. During that week I experimented with having sex while the plug was still in my a$$. It was a very interesting experience. What the plug did is fill me up, making my vaginal canal tighter, therefore intercourse was more pleasurable. I actually fell in love with this feeling.
After my butthole got used to the medium plug, I knew it was time for the big boy, the large butt plug. It was a giant. Like I couldn’t even imagine that thing fitting into my butt. Then I remembered that there are pornos where women get anally fisted, so I figured, it has to stretch. I shoved that thing into my a$$ and it hurt, I won’t lie. Even masturbating didn’t alleviate the pressure, but I continued. However, I only used this plug like two times. I realized that the average penis is waaay thinner than this thing, so F*ck it.
It was go time from there. Anal sex had to be done. I needed to lose my anal virginity. Lots of lube and a vibrator did the trick. The initial insertion was a slow process as my anus had to get used to being stretched out. He went pretty slow, doggy style. I didn’t last very long, it was uncomfortable, he stopped…Now guess what happened….sh*t happened! Yup, a little left over poo ended up on his penis. It grossed him out. We stayed away from anal for a while. I don’t blame him. I should have done the freakin’ enema!
After a while, I convinced my Mr. to try again. This time we did missionary, with a vibrator, and lots of lube of course. Missionary was definitely much much better. I actually came probably like 4 times. I didn’t even know that was possible. After a few times of messiness, we decided to use condoms. Like why the f*ck didn’t we think of this sooner. Just use a condom, it makes the clean up process a breeze.
I also discovered Cleanstream Relax Desensitizing Lube which is ammmaaazing. I recently reviewed this product, click here to check it out. I am now able to enjoy anal sex, without plugging. However sometimes I still enjoy having the plug in during vaginal intercourse, it’s just a different feeling.
I hope my anal experience was helpful. I know that anal is often a taboo topic. I know that people who do anal are viewed differently by society. Perhaps slutty, maybe kinky? Don’t be afraid to try it. Trust me everyone is curious about anal, but no one wants to talk about it. It’s like a big secret when it really shouldn’t be. Sooooo just do it, you won’t regret it. Do you think I would be recommending anal if it was not pleasurable?